My Desire

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I desire to connect with other Christian women.

I desire to minister in some way even if  it is a small one.

I desire to take care of my family.

I desire to raise my children in a Christ-filled home.

I desire to be a woman after God’s own heart.

I desire to make my husband proud to be my husband.

I desire to leave a legacy.

I desire to love my neighbor as myself, even when that’s difficult.

These are just a few of the things that I desire today.  What about you my friend, what about you?

Simplifying Life a Little Bit at a Time

I have had many readers ask me how I was simplifying my life since I have been making a good many changes here and shared with you all that I was in the process of “simplifying”.  I thought I’d share with you what I am doing and how it’s coming along.

Like anything when you make changes in your life in order to truly be successful you must do it a “little bit at a time.” You cannot wake up one day and decide, I’m going to make a bunch of changes in my life, starting today, because quite frankly you’ll likely fail.  There are not many people, at least I don’t know any who are disciplined enough to make a great deal of changes all at once and be successful.

So, I decided to start small.  First, I looked at my commitments, this was an area where my plate was obviously too full.  I stepped down from some things, and reduced the commitment to others.  Mind you most of these were “good” things, dutiful things like teaching classes at church or creating a weekly newsletter to minister to moms of girls, but these things were time consuming and took my focus off of my family.  As a mom, my first focus, after my Savior should be my husband and my family.  I admit, mine was not because I had too many commitments.

I’ll be sharing more in future posts.  This will be the first in a series about simplifying life a little bit at a time.  Check back!

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Is Approval Addicting to You?

I think it might be addiction, in fact I’m almost certain it is which is why I have read a book on the topic before, that book was called “Approval Addiction” and I truly believe I may be addicted to approval.  Mostly the approval of others, sometimes sadly even those I do not know personally.

Right now we are experiencing some financial woes, it is not anything new.  As a freelancer my income goes up and down and is never “consistent” to add to that my husband is now being paid bi–monthly rather than once a month, while we believe we’ll like this arrangement once we get used to it for now it is a bit scary.  Mostly because we have two big bills at the beginning of the month.  We do have debt unfortunately and without my income we wouldn’t be able to pay on it period.

This weekend I went to a few “message boards” that teach and speak of frugal living and getting out of debt as a source for information, unfortunately because of wanting to “please” those people I get into a long drawn out conversation via message board.  Sadly, I feel that they twisted and turned my words and my situation until it wasn’t even something I recognized.  Why do I allow myself to be drawn into this?  Why do I even care?

My husband and I also had lengthy conversations this weekend about his expectations from me.  One of the main things he wants from me is an “orderly” house.  Notice I didn’t say clean.  I am NOT a good housekeeper, I know this, he knows this and so we’re hoping “orderly” Is a happier medium.  I am a pretty organized person, but I’m also a bit “messy”.  Not sure that even makes sense, but if you knew me as well as my husband does, you’d understand.

This past week has been a week of soul searching for me and while I want to be “approved of”, I certainly don’t want to try and please everyone because obviously everyone’s out look is different and people certainly see your situation differently than you see it yourself.

I’m grateful for a Godly person whom I spoke to on the phone a week ago, because she listened to God and as a result spoke to me through this Godly influence I have been making some changes in my life.  I hope that it is only wise and Godly wisdom such as hers that I listen to and that I will seek God’ approval above the approval of others.

Can you tell this really bothers me?  Have you ever dealt with this type thing?  Share it with me.

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