We Learn the Hard Way

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Is it just me, or do we sometimes have to learn, the hard way?  I know that I spend a lot of time on the computer.   As most of you know I work online and therefore spend a great deal of time on the computer.  In addition, I have accumulated a good many friends online that I “socialize” with throughout the day on Twitter.  For me, it’s second nature and I don’t think much about it, or at least I didn’t until last night.

We spent the night before Valentine’s Day with friends, 4 other couples in fact that we like to get together with often, friends from church who we admire and respect.  One of them is the youth and children’s director at our church, he was going to be planning a Valentine’s banquet for our church that was held tonight and was going to be doing his version of the Newlywed Game at the banquet, so last night, he wanted to “practice” on us.  He did and the game was a ton of fun.  Unfortunately for me, it was also very “telling”.  One of the questions posed to the husband’s was, “what one habit does your wife have that you cannot stand.”  My husband had written down his answer and I then had to “guess” what it was.  As much as I hate to admit it, I knew the answer right away.  He hates that I stay on the computer so much.  Of course, I was dead on.  I practically hung my head in shame.   The truth, as we all know, “hurts”.

This is something I knew but was not taking to heart.  Mind you I will now.  I told him this morning I was making a new rule for myself.  I won’t be on the computer when he is home unless it is absolutely necessary for work.  He was so sweet to say, “I didn’t mean you couldn’t be on it at all.” But, nevertheless I realize I must set limits.

I tweeted about this earlier today and several ladies agreed that their husbands would say the same thing.  Would yours?  Maybe we can hold each other accountable.

Good Friends = Good Life

When I was younger, my momma always told me “enjoy your friends now because when you get older they disappear.” I believed her, for a long time.  My mom and dad weren’t the type of people when we were growing up to have friends over, have get togethers or anything.  Sure, we had family over all the time, but my mom and dad’s friends, not so much.

When I graduated high school, it hit me, I am going to lose all my friends.  That hit hard and it hurt.  I had this fear that it would come true.  Sure, I haven’t seen most of the people I graduated with since graduation or a random run in at the local Walmart, and my best friend from high school and I rarely talk, but when we do it feels just like old times.  Even still, my best friend from elementary and junior high, who moved away, and I still talk regularly.  Though we rarely see each other. I was in her wedding in 2005 and she came to see me after both baby #1 and #2 were born.  #1 the night he was born carrying flowers, because she’s just that type of gal.

When I married the summer after my freshman year of college, I had this tiny hope inside that I’d make new friends in my new town.  That didn’t exactly happen over night.  But slowly, it has happened and now, I’m surrounded with a great big circle of friends.  I call them “my girls” and they are so special.  Each one hand picked by God to be a friend to me.  What makes them even more special is many of them have children my children’s age and they too are friends.  We have get togethers with the kids, we go to church together and our children attend school together.  We do A LOT together and that’s why good friends = my good life.

The photo is from our 2nd Annual Weenie Roast held a couple weekends ago.

I Miss Him Already

My oldest son started Kindergarten yesterday, all day Kindergarten, he has attended 1/2 day preschool for the past two years.  Yesterday was a half day, but today he goes till 3 pm.  He woke up this morning and didn’t really want to go.  It had hit him that he’d be away all day.  It made me sad.

He’s gotten so big, so fast.  He is more like me than I often admit.  He is persistent, stubborn, and won’t take no for an answer.  No wonder we butt heads, but he’s also tender-hearted, intelligent and creative (I’d hope that was from me too).

This weekend we had his friends over for what is becoming our annual Avant Weenie Roast.  They had a blast and so did their parents.  I am so blessed to have close friends who have children the same age of my children.  We have a true circle of friends that mean the world to us.

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