Jun 11 2008

How He Got Me Here

Published by Alyssa Avant under Just Me

Several weeks ago I believe it was, and then my timing may be completely off, Heather, one of my favorite bloggers over at Desperately Seeking Sanity creating a blog carnival and contest entitled, Where He Met Me…. I might be completely and totally late doing this, but my point really wasn’t to enter the carnival or the contest, but to give you my testimony. So, Either way, I’m accomplishing that.

I am preparing to attend She Speaks in just 8 days now and as I blogged about yesterday, part of that is going to be giving my testimony or sharing my “story” in 3 minutes with my speaker evaluation group. As stated in yesterday’s post, this is going to be difficult for me. Reading this post you’ll be able to see that , because it is LONG. So, part of the reason I am posting this is I’m hoping to gain some ideas and insight into what I should talk about in that 3 minutes and to also give those in my group at She Speaks a place to go for the “rest of the story” as they say because apparently I’m going to have to leave a good bit out to make my speech ONLY 3 minutes. So, here it is, my testimony….it’s more than just Where He Met Me, but also How He Got Me Here, to where I am today, enjoy:

By the way, this is adapted from a testimony I gave to a ladies group regarding my ministry:

I will begin with my testimony of how Beauty By Design Ministries was created, my inspiration I guess you would say for having a ministry to girls and their moms. Let me give you a little background, I have to begin at the beginning as they say. I grew up in a Christian home; I was saved at the age of eight and was very fortunate to be one of the kids that was at church every time the doors were open. During my teen years I was involved in everything the church offered from Youth Choir to serving on the Youth Council to attending Church camp and going on mission trips in the summers. Growing up in Winona, I lived a pretty sheltered life. Therefore, I did not realize that others out there didn’t have the same situation that is until I attended Modeling School in Memphis. There I met girls from many different backgrounds and lifestyles. The situations were as different as they were numerous, and they were all very eye opening for me.

After attending Modeling school, I was chosen to attend an international modeling competition in Miami, FL to represent Memphis. There I saw and met even more people from very different situations than myself. I was also put in the situation where I had to choose how I would present myself, The girls in line with me at the competition were all wearing what appeared to be tube tops for both their top and their bottom, revealing was more than true! There I stood in line with these girls clothed from head to toe in my flare legged suit and boots. I was stylish but I was completely covered!

Ok, you may be wondering, what does this have to do with ministry? Well, a lot, I realized through these experiences that I was fortunate and that I was different. My experiences growing up in Church had made me who I was at 17 years old. I was a confident, bold, Christian who didn’t mind telling those girls about my faith or why I had on more clothes than they did! I understood that being a Christian meant being like Christ, honoring God with my body and my actions. This began a passion within me to help other girls to understand why it was important to be modest, and to make Christ a part of their lives and their decisions for their future. I had seen so many girls that were going down the wrong road that I wanted them to realize that they could choose a different path.
The girls I attended modeling school with looked at beauty much differently than the Bible speaks of beauty; they also found their self worth in a much different place than I was taught to find mine, in Christ. I wanted them to have the relationship with God that I did and the hope for my future that I knew could be theirs.

A ministry for girls became a dream of mine way back then. I also began sensing a call of God on my life back around that time, and even before that time. In December of 1998, at a youth service I committed my life to full time Christian service. At that time, I was unsure of what God was calling me to do. I just continued to follow God’s guidance. In 2002, after I was married and had moved to Carrollton two years prior I received the opportunity to do youth/children’s ministry with Carrollton Baptist, as many of you know I served there for over 4 ½ years. God truly stretched me and grew me in this position and I developed an even great love for ministry, for teenagers and for children as I served there.

There came a time in my heart that I knew the girls ministry was what God was calling me to do. BBDM was actually born in January of 2005 when I began pursuing speaking opportunities to speak to girls and their moms on my favorite topics of beauty, etiquette, modesty, fashion, etc. I only did a couple of speaking engagements that year but God continued to inspire me with ideas. One of which was to make the topics hands on where the girls would not only hear me speak on a topic such as beauty from a Biblical viewpoint but also be shown how to properly apply makeup so that she could look great without overdoing it. I also created a pampering session, a fashion show, a tea party, each paired with a topic.

The next January 2006, God blessed me even more. He gave me the opportunity to have a website created and send out flyers to churches to let them know about my ministry. This created more opportunities and in 06 I spoke 6 times. During that year, God created in me a desire to do this full time. I did not know how God was going to make it happen, but I had the strong feeling that he would. In March, my pastor at our church resigned, and I began questioning whether I should stay on staff. I prayed more in those months surrounding his resignation than I think I have ever prayed in my life.

During that time, I read the book “If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat”, I began to realize that my “boat” or comfort zone in my life was my job at the church. I knew God was calling me to be like Peter and step out of my boat on faith. However, I didn’t do it immediately. Even though I was unsure of my position at the church, I still hung on to it. I went through the days in a fog, constantly wondering what God was doing and what I should do next. I pursued other ministry positions in other churches, even in other towns, only to find dead ends. I had at this point forgotten about my girls ministry because I didn’t think I’d ever be able to do it.

It was over in the fall before I began to think about girl’s ministry anymore. It was at the Women’s Conference held every September at my church. Becky Brown of Little Brown Light Ministries was the speaker. I had prayed to God that through her speaking her would speak to me and show me what I was suppose to be doing. God answered my prayer. Anyway, through her speaking that Saturday and my thoughts and prayers I realize that God was saying, “Alyssa, you’re not prepared.” I began spending more time studying God’s word as a result. God continued to pull at my heart, giving me a longing to speak and minister to girls and their moms. He also gave me the inspiration to write and to create products.

During a sermon on the first Sunday of January 2007, that our interim pastor preached on change I knew God was saying, “you have to make a change, you have to trust me and step out on faith.” That day I told my pastor of my plans to resign after my baby who was due in March was born. It felt as if a weight was lifted off me, God continued to bless. He began filling my calendar with speaking opportunities and he inspired me to write. Since January, I have been able to write countless articles, as well as a prayer journal devotional guide for teens.

Beauty by Design Ministries is off to a fabulous start. God is doing what I knew he would do if I took that step of faith and that is he is paving the way. He is giving me opportunities to minister to girls and their moms from a Biblical perspective on things that they enjoy but also maybe some topic that they struggle with. Today’s society has a much different view of such topics as beauty, modesty, and abstinence than the Bible teaches. My programs teach these topics from a Biblical perspective while giving participants the opportunity to have hands on fun in the activities that they love. Each of my programs has a theme and topic that go together. I’ve had the opportunity to do Mother Daughter nights and retreats, girl’s nights and retreats as well as be the guest speaker at community events.

I am blessed to be able to use the Internet to reach an even broader market. I publish my articles online to many places visited frequently by moms, and I offer a weekly newsletter moms can receive via email with articles, devotions, tips and encouragement.

I am blessed to daily stay home with my children, but to also do what I love and that is speaking, writing and ministering. I can truly say that I am where God wants me to be.

By the way, this needs updating too. This was written in July 2007. Since then much more has happened that God has done. The ministry is still thriving, I”ve added a new branch, Organized Life by Design, and God has blessed me with a writing business as well. God is good!  I’ll blog the rest, since there still is more to the story another day, so check back!

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Apr 07 2008

Monday Motivation

Published by Alyssa Avant under Uncategorized

Monday motivationMy friends Aurelia and Judilynn both posted Monday Motivation posts today on their blogs. Monday Motivations is a way that they get motivated to start a new week, now I am going to join them today as I had a bit of difficulty getting motivated myself this morning. Luckily, After reading their posts and looking over my client list of articles and my monthly income list I realized if i was going to make that income I had to actually write the client’s articles brilliant revelation huh?

But seriously, I have been trying to stay better organized, which was one of Judilynn’s ways of getting motivated and I am trying to create some new habits. One of which is to go to bed with my desk clean every night, another which isn’t really related to my writing is to go to bed with a clean kitchen, no dishes in the sink, counters wiped, dishwasher running, everything put away. I attempted to create a habit of doing this earlier in the year and lets just say I fell off the wagon. So I am at it again. They say it takes 21 days to develop a habit, last night was day 4 this go round for my attempting to create a habit of cleaning my kitchen before bed.

Setting goals normally helps me to stay motivated, so do TO DO lists. I am an avid To Do list maker. Of course i made my TO DO list for today over the weekend. Making your TO DO list the night before can save you time.

Aurelia share her TO DO for the week over on her blog. She also asks how we plan our week. Well, normally mine first centers around any family activities or appointments, then church activities, then my work/ministry.

This week I luckily don’t have alot going on outside the home. I find the fewer outside the home activities I have the better. I can get much more done. Tonight I have TOMgirls my favorite outside the home activity, getting together with a group of gals at church for food, Bible study, prayer and fellowship. Tonight we’re being honored by the WMU (older ladies of the church) and they are treating us to a meal and entertainment I hear. I can’t wait!

Ok, I’ve motivated myself today, I hope you can get motivated too and enjoy your week!

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