Life if Full of Disappointment
by Alyssa Avant on March 15, 2009
in Just Me
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Life is full of disappointments. Luckily, I am “grown up” enough to recognize them for what they are and get over them quickly. Nonetheless they disappoint and sometimes can be a upsetting and emotional as well.
Case in point, Last week, I blogged about my many projects one of which was planning my high school reunion. Something I was sincerely excited about doing, until Friday. One week after I had officially begun the process, I officially quit the process. Why you ask?
Well, apparently there are classmates of mine who do not want me planning it because of my stand on alcohol and the fact that they “knew” even without my telling them that I was planning an “alcohol free” event. They were right and that’s ok, but I was NOT going to plan something I do not normally stand for or participate in.
As the email I just wrote everyone explained. I know that the conviction that alcohol is wrong is not everyone’s conviction. I know you’re not going to go to “hell” if you drink. I know that some Christians choose to drink alocohol and I am not condemning anyone or telling anyone that they should not, I simply stated that I cannot plan something I don’t do myself or believe in myself.
I am in ministry, it is not only my career but it is my life. I cannot speak out for and teach girls to “stand on their convictions” and “know what they believe in” if I cannot stand on my own, so I am choosing to stand on them and therefore choosing NOT to plan my reunion.
I am aware that NO one asked me to plan the reunion, however I wanted to see it happen and had not heard of anyone else planning one. I had asked several people to help me, only one of which I had really communicated with, she was supporting my thoughts on alcohol, and I am thankful for that.
I am disappointed, but I will get over it. I for one loved my days in high school, not that I would go back, but I did enjoy them, have fond memories and was looking forward to seeing my old classmates and reminiscing a bit.
What an inspiration you are to stand up for your convictions. Jesus even said we would be persecuted for following Him. It’s sad that your classmates didn’t see the wonderful service you were going to do for them and only focused on what they thought was negative. Just know there are lots of us who are so blessed to know you.
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I am sorry you are going through this, but you did the right thing by stepping down.
I personally would be upset if one person did the planning and placed their beliefs (of any kind) on an event such as this. You have the choice to drink or not drink at these type of functions, but to limit it on everyone else would be wrong in my opinion.
This reminds me, my reunion is coming up next year. In my case, I am going to need a few drinks to see those people again.
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You go girl! Stand up for those convictions!
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I think it’s great you stood by your convictions. The world can test us in funny ways sometimes.
I am sorry you had to step down and I hope some one does plan something for your reunion. While I do drink occassionaly, it is rare. I do enjoy life alchol-free myself. It makes the whole experience more real to me.
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Let These People Think What They Want – I Respect That While You Know That Others Will Do What They Want That You Stand By Your Values – How Else Can We Live Our Lives. They Must Know That Some Events People Attend Aren’t Ones That You Can Drink At. And Aren’t They Adults Of Age Who Can Drink Privately In The Comforts Of Their Own Home If They Choose And It Won’t Bother Anyone? Stick To Your Morals And Don’t Let This Bother You. You’re Following Your Heart & Really Its More For Everyone Else’s Safety Than Anything Also – What A Way To Keep People Safe!
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Didn’t Mean To Double Post But After Reading Everyone Elses Posts I Must Say Also That Not Only At This Event & In Life – When We’re Parents & Adults, Its Better To Choose Not To Drink & Participate In Such Activities. When I Was Younger, I Drank More. But As A 30 Something Mother, I Don’t Because As The Old Saying Goes – The Chief Cause Of Failure & Unhappiness Is Trading What We Want Most For What We Want At The Moment. It Only Takes That Once…..Thanks For Standing Up For Your Beliefs – You Stood Up For Many Others As Well. By The Way I Have A Newborn Daughter Named Alissa!
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Having had my reunion recently… and watching my 2 close friends plan it all.. I must say you are not alone.. and highschool never ends.
When you get the highschool people back together– its always highschool all over… for better or for worse.
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I think it's great you stood by your convictions. The world can test us in funny ways sometimes.
I am sorry you had to step down and I hope some one does plan something for your reunion. While I do drink occassionaly, it is rare. I do enjoy life alchol-free myself. It makes the whole experience more real to me.
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